Divorce can be one of the most painful experiences a person ever goes through but it doesn’t have to be…and you don’t have to go through it alone. I can help you through it…
Pro PerPro per, or more specifically In Propria Persona literally means "for one’s self”. The term is used in divorce cases when a person acts as his/her own attorney. It does not mean that you are limited in any of your legal rights, only that you are your own attorney.
Many people choose this method for a variety of reasons, chief among these is cost. It will be necessary for you to familiarize yourself with the divorce process and with court procedures if you are doing your divorce without the assistance of an attorney.» Back to Top
LitigationFor couples who can’t work things out on their own, litigation is the most traditional way to seek a divorce. Each hires an attorney to represent them and the focus in court is on winning.
You will be advised not to communicate directly with your spouse. Your attorney will be your spokesperson and presents your case to the judge. The judge makes decisions on what is best for your family although no one can predict the outcome once you are in Court. Even seasoned attorneys cannot predict with certainty how the judge will rule.
The litigation process is very time-consuming and expensive. The most significant cost of litigation however is the trauma and wounds of on-going conflict in the family and two warring parents will always cause children to feel anxious. The adversarial nature of litigation itself often exaggerates negative feelings that couples have toward each other which can carry into the future and into the family.» Back to Top
MediationMediation is an alternative to a courtroom battle. It is a no court divorce process. A skilled, neutral mediator works with you and your spouse, using a step-by-step approach to gather information, balance communication, generate options, and assist in your creating a mutually agreeable settlement agreement. Before any agreement is finalized, you and your spouse will each have it reviewed by a consulting attorney.
Mediation can create better outcomes than litigation, especially if children and co-parenting issues are involved because you and your spouse make child-centered decisions to benefit your family. The cost of mediation is relatively modest compared to the cost of a litigated divorce.
This process takes you out of combat and redirects your energy toward resolving your concerns so that you can move forward with your lives.» Back to Top
CollaborationDivorce is not a war, it is a transition. This approach is also a no court method and involves the formation of a collaborative team that together identifies goals, objectives, obstacles, methods and solutions. The team’s mission is to provide a non-adversarial process in which the divorcing spouses can end their marriage with respect and dignity, making the future well being of their family the highest priority.
The team consists of the husband and wife, a collaboratively trained attorney and mental health professional known as a divorce coach for each spouse, a neutral financial professional and a trained child specialist.
Each team member brings a variety of skills and expertise to support the transitioning family and to assist them in resolving their concerns respectfully and in a positive manner. The process involves a step-by-step approach to addressing the legal, emotional and financial aspects of your divorce.
With the guidance of your team, together you will design a mutually acceptable agreement based on decisions you make and supported by informed consent. You will also develop a parenting plan that reflects the best interests of your children and that fits your needs as a family. Throughout the process, you will be empowered to make all those decisions that will shape your future life.
As a no court process, its benefits are many. While avoiding court, even though there is a team of professionals, it will save time and money. If however the spouses decide to go to court, the collaborative professionals withdraw.» Back to Top